April 1, 2008 changed our lives.  That was the day our 15 year old daughter told us she had been raped and molested over the course of 3 years.  As a parent hearing my child’s truth for the first time, I was in shock and my emotions were all over the place.  My mind raced trying to answer the question, “How could this happen to my child?” In the moments that followed, I felt everything from rage, extreme sadness, guilt, and physical pain.

We discovered that the person who assaulted her was an older male cousin and all of it occurred after school while in a family member’s care.  Part of our anger was rooted in the fact that we really believed that we had taken every precaution to guard against something like this from happening.  We, like many parents, were always concerned about protecting our children so they were always in the care of family members. However, like many people reading this blog, we quickly learned that while stranger danger is real, often times the real danger can be from “trusted” family and friends.

There is no right or wrong answer in terms of how one responds to their child’s disclosure of sexual abuse.  It is nothing that one can ever prepare for and certainly not something that you ever expect to hear.  Just know that your response will affect your child for the rest of their life.  They NEED you to believe them, support them, protect them, and seek justice for them….

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Next week’s topic…..Calling the police and reporting the crime

Category: For Dads, For Moms, For Survivors, Uncategorized | 1 comment

  • Sarah M. says:

    This was difficult to read as I remember the moment I told my mother about my childhood sexual abuse. It occured ten years ago while taking drum lessons and all I can rember her saying, and it breaks my heart, “I just wanted to give you every opportunity in life.” She felt guilty for putting me in the lessons, I never wanted her to feel responsible…